Life is Best for those who are enjoying it; Difficult for those who are comparing it; and Worst for those who are criticising it. Your own Attitude defines your life. Have a thoughtfully enjoyable day!
What is Gaslighting? “I never said that. You’re making things up again.” “Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.” “It’s all in your head.”
People who gaslight become expert at pushing your buttons, and they know your sensitivities and vulnerabilities and use that knowledge against you. They make you doubt yourself, your judgment, your memory, and even your sanity. Examples include:
Trivializing how you feel: “Oh yeah, now you’re going to feel really sorry for yourself.” Telling you that people are talking behind your back: “Don’t you know? The whole family talks about you. They think you’re losing it.” Saying things to you that they later deny having said: “I didn’t say I’d take the deposit to the bank. What are you talking about? Thanks a lot for the insufficient funds fee we’re going to get.” Hiding objects from you, and then deny knowing anything about it: “You seriously can’t find your sunglasses again? That’s alarming.” Insisting you were or were not at a certain place, even though it’s not true: “You’re crazy. You never went to that show with me. I should know.”
Recognizing that you’re a victim in your relationship is the important first step toward getting help.